Lee's Blog: Sex and the City...is Crap.

« God and Goddess Party! w00t! | Main | Titanium is Neat »

August 29, 2002

Sex and the City...is Crap.

Thursday, August 29, 2002

I wrote this screed yesterday, but couldn't figure out how to get my web site to flip my home page. I guess it hated me, but it's happy now. So, we proceed:

I just made a mistake. I sat down and watched three hours of Sex and the City. You know, the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" HBO miniseries that's ever so trendy and speaks so much to the heart of modern single people.

My failure to relate to this television program is so profound and deep, I felt the need to write a rebuttal. It's just so wrong, the way people think about each other.

Now, your first thought might be "Hey, Lee? What the heck were you doing watching that TV show? You might note that you're not a member of the target audience." Well, you're right. This is one of the discs I won last Halloween at the costume party, and there's something wrong about having a video on your shelf that you have never watched. Call it a pet peeve.

I should have been outside changing my tire (which is flat), but it's hot out there! So I popped this disc in the player, and was treated to three hours of neuroses and overgeneralizations. Now, normally, I'd be able to laugh, because at times it's pretty funny. I thought, however, that underneath the clever writing and the good jokes, there were some really unfortunate preconceptions about what's going on in the heads of the not-so-fairer sex (that is, mine).

Let me preface. I'm a big believer in the Principle of Mediocrity. Since Copernicus decided that the earth was in fact one of several planets revolving around the Sun, humanity has been forced to confront the possibility that we are not unique. We may be one of many intelligent life forms living on a none-too-special planet circling a dime-a-dozen sun. If you change this idea from an observation about the universe to an observation about individual humans, it starts to look like this:

"My viewpoint, although it is unique in the fact that it is mine, is not peculiar to me. There are in all likelihood many people who think the way I do."

The thing is, my viewpoint is not traditional. I think that men are no different from women.

Now, OK, everybody settle down a minute. If I wanted to phrase that less confrontationally, I'd say that the differences between individual humans are far more significant than the differences between statistical groups of men vs. women. Gender roles are, to my way of thinking, shortcuts to sloppy thinking. Why are all men assumed to be afraid of commitment? Why are all women assumed to be incomplete without a boyfriend/husband? Why is a guy who has a lot of women a stud, and a woman with a lot of guys a slut? And who the HELL decided that single people were some sort of sub-human mutant strain, doomed forever to loneliness and misery? Don't even get me started on THAT.

Yes, it's easy to understand the evolutionary imperatives behind some of these preconceptions. If you're trying to increase your species' population, a male impregnating many females is an advantageous position. Females choosing the most powerful man as their mate are likely to have stronger children.

But, in case we hadn't noticed, evolutionary imperatives are not exactly important to our future development. We have so much power to change ourselves, we have no need whatever for nature to take its course and change us.

Of course, that means it is incumbent upon us to pay attention to the world around us, and adapt our thinking accordingly. Does that sound like I'm advocating a realignment of traditional gender roles? Well, insofar as they exist any more at all (which I contest), you betcha.

I think, however, that there are two sorts of people. Since the TV show I'm ranting about is all about dating, I'll confine my observations to that little portion of interactions. The two sorts of people are: Those who know what they want, and those who do not know what they want.

The thing that gets me is that the women on this TV show say they want a sensitive, kind, caring man who can connect with them emotionally. When they get said "sensitive" man, they drop him like a hot rock telling themselves all sorts of ridiculous stories about how incompatible they are.

OK, I have to confess, I'm projecting a bit here. This is a situation I've found myself in (being a man who is, by nature, more sensitive and accomodating than your traditional frat-boy), and it's one I'm pretty tired of.

So here I am. Smart, articulate, emotionally well-balanced, and not horrifically gnarly to look at. I guess I'm just frustrated at not being able to find a woman who actually wants what she says she wants. Now, that might sound like a preconception, but I work very hard at making sure that it isn't. It's my observation, based on more personal experience than I'd like to admit. I mean, that's the way it works...you pays your money, you takes your chances...there's nothing wrong with that.

Haven't lost heart yet, though. I know which of those two types of people I am. What about you? Which one are you? Write and tell me, if you are so moved.

Posted by Lee at August 29, 2002 01:43 AM

Trackback Pings

TrackBack URL for this entry:
http://moofie.lastcoolnameleft.com/MT/mt-tb.cgi/430

Listed below are links to weblogs that reference Sex and the City...is Crap.:

» mesothelioma from malignant mesothelioma malignant pleural mesothelioma
malignant mesothelioma malignant pleural mesothelioma [Read More]

Tracked on June 30, 2005 10:48 AM

» the site from acne baby bingo bonsai carauction
Cra cha tee da da salma [Read More]

Tracked on July 2, 2005 07:49 AM

» thumbzilla from
threesome sex searchgals gang bang squad schoolgirl gangbangs... [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:10 AM

» otk spanking from
spanking cum on her face bizarre fingering vaginas [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:10 AM

» mom and son from
free rape stories gang violence lesbian rape public flashing gang rape horse blow... [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:10 AM

» bare feet from
nude cheerleaders hotties sexy teachers leg cramps [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:10 AM

» brutal sex from
teen rape violent comix rape fantasy gang violence violence gay r... [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:11 AM

» big butts from
milf seeker manga babes big naturals milfseeker milf seeker painful a... [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:11 AM

» latina sex from
bbw asian babes fat people reel big fish calories pound of fat thong ... [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:11 AM

» dog breeds from
horse fuck farm girls bestiality dog sex [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:11 AM

» incest sex from
free incest mom sex incest cartoons dad fucking daughter [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 09:11 AM

» black or white from
interracial movie latino sex interracial sex black and white art [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 11:45 AM

» upskirt from
lesbian dildo dildo bike lesbian dildo toilet voyeur huge... [Read More]

Tracked on October 29, 2005 11:45 AM

» mature sex from
mature milf milf hunter movies mature pussy mature women [Read More]